[cmake] remove fail-on-missing=OFF path for all dependencies that back opt-in features - #23016

Node.js 20 is deprecated. The following actions target Node.js 20 but are being forced to run on Node.js 24: astral-sh/ruff-action@v3. For more information see: https://github.blog/changelog/2025-09-19-deprecation-of-node-20-on-github-actions-runners/